The goal of the Alpha M. YouTube channel is simple: to help you be amazing and feel incredible. But I’m tired of looking at social media and seeing guys make horrible life decisions. Life is about choices, and if you choose to make any of the decisions I’m reviewing in today’s video, you have nobody to blame for your unhappy life other than you.
How you can 100% make a mess of your life
- Living somebody else’s dream. (a) We often allow other people’s opinions to dictate our direction instead of choosing it for ourselves. Choose how to live your life; it’s your job and responsibility. If you don’t want that midlife crisis, don’t listen to others tell you what you want and need. A midlife crisis happens when a guy finally wakes up and realizes he’s been living an entire life for others. (b) Marrying the wrong person. If you’re in a relationship where you stay because it feels comfortable or you don’t want to hurt her feelings, do not feel pressured to get married. (c) Having a baby with someone you shouldn’t. You must be careful with whom you have kids because you will be tied to this person for life. If you have visions and dreams, that baby will put those dreams and plans on hold. Pregnancy is your responsibility — don’t believe the hype! Wrap that rascal.
- Thinking life is not fair. (a) Life is not fair. If you believe it is, you will have a horrible life because people who think life is supposed to be fair wait for things to happen. Then they get upset when things don’t go their way. They also get jealous of others. Don’t wait around for success to knock on your door. Sometimes bad things happen to good people, and sometimes we’re collateral damage and other people’s lives. Everybody’s just trying to figure it out and do their best job. Realize that life does not revolve around you. (b) Not getting over your issues. At one point in my life, I had lost my ability to say no to people, and I was miserable. I was mad at everybody and pissed off because I had two abusive stepfathers. I went to therapy because I decided I was worth fixing and deserved to be happy. Take control of your life, your future, and your happiness. Better Help is the world’s largest online therapy service, with a network of over 30,000 licensed and experienced therapists who can help you with various issues. Getting started is easy: click for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help. You deserve to be happy.
- Hanging out with losers. If you’ve been hanging out with the same loser friends for years, it’s not easy to leave people behind. You may feel guilty and want to hang out because they’re fun. But they will ruin your life.
- Mistreating your body. (a) Abusing drugs and alcohol. Having a few beers is no big deal. But drinking and driving is a big deal and can ruin your life and somebody else’s. Grab an Uber! If you choose to get blackout drunk, it’s nobody else’s fault other than yours. It will catch up with you and ruin your life. (b) Not taking care of your temple. You only have one body, and your health is your most valuable asset. If you neglect it or treat it poorly, it will fall apart and break down. Work out every day and be disciplined. Stick to a diet.
- Chasing material possessions. Sometimes people chase ‘stuff’ as a substitute for intrinsic happiness. The feeling that you get from buying ‘stuff’ will go away. Go after experiences and happiness. Worry about your mental health and physical well-being — not stuff.
- Having bad credit. Understand how many works and the importance of a good credit score. Don’t buy much on credit cards, and make sure you pay your bills. Having a low credit score puts you in a position of weakness. Make sure you set a budget and live below your means. Use delayed gratification, and get a side hustle if you don’t have enough money to pay your bills. If you fail, it’s part of the equation. Take risks as they build mental toughness, strength, and character.
- Not being able to say ‘no.’ If you’re a people-pleaser, it’s a detriment to you. Learn to say ‘no,’ which can be a hard thing to do. People want to be liked and don’t want people to be mad at them, but we need to step up and respect ourselves.