My goal today is simple. I will help you start a conversation like a bad boy but keep it going with some small talk tips and tricks. The video is divided into two parts, with the first covering bad-boy communication strategies that make you more engaging and memorable. The second part will cover some of the best bad-boy conversation starters. The more you practice, the more you get out there, the more you start communicating, the better you will start and carry on conversations.
Easily begin an exchange with confidence
- Take action. Guys get into the habit of getting themselves all worked up and overthinking, whereas bad boys take action quickly.
- Positive body language. Your body language includes how you walk up to someone, how you stand there and talk to them, how you make eye contact, whether or not you’re smiling, and how interested you look. Make sure you put your phone away and make the person feel like they’re the most important in the room. Don’t be distracted by a phone.
- Proper word choice. Refrain from stumbling over your words and using filler words. Make sure your word choice is concise and exudes confidence. You must form proper sentences and refrain from stumbling or stammering to communicate effectively. I use Skillshare to get better at communicating. Alex Lyons is a communication expert, and his course Communication Skills: Become More Clear, Concise, & Confident is one of the best I’ve taken. He helps you to eliminate filler words and take confident poses to form more concise sentences. The first 1,000 people to use this link will get a one-month free trial of Skillshare.
- Listen more. Bad boys listen more than they speak. Nice guys talk a lot to prove they’re good enough, exciting, and interesting. Bad boys understand the power of listening.
- Have control. Take control of the conversation by asking the first question. The first person who asks a question in an exchange generally controls it because the other person responds and thinks of a follow-up question. Bad boys ask better questions.
- Be interesting. You have a degree of knowledge to ask proper follow-up questions and get someone talking and engaged deeper. Skillshare will make you more interesting because you can learn from many different topics. Skillshare has helped me from an entrepreneurial perspective with courses on marketing, Shopify, Amazon, and more. It’s also helped me with creative classes such as photography. Alex Lyons, who I talked about earlier, has another course (Conversation Skills: How to Have a Great Conversation with Virtually Anyone) that was amazing and helped me start better conversations.
- Don’t stay too long. Understand the power of ‘it’s not you, it’s me.’ leave them wanting more instead of overstaying your welcome.
- Go deep. Don’t communicate on a surface level, like discussing the weather. Be willing to divulge information about yourself to draw people in closer and feel a connection to you. Talk to people like they are your friends and drop the wall. You will connect quicker and deeper.
- Use this secret weapon. Give compliments! When you compliment, the other person’s guard will drop, and they will like you more. People like those who make them feel good about themselves and will want to engage. With women, don’t compliment anything physical.
How to ask better questions
- Where are they from? The answer will allow you to quickly and seamlessly keep up the momentum by asking a follow-up question about where they grew up.
- What do they do for fun? This question allows them to think about something they did that they enjoyed and will get them excited.
- What gets them fired up? Get them emotional to take the conversation deeper.
- Ask questions about future plans. It’s about passion and things they’re excited about.
- What’s their story? They’re going to tell you whatever they want you to know. You can pull conversation threads from their answer. This question automatically drops their guard because it’s playful and powerful.